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10 long-term relationship issues that may not seem important now

10 long-term relationship issues that may not seem important now

  • 10 long-term relationship issues that may not seem important now

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    Daters in their honeymoon phase tend to gloss over loads of important things. Have you ever had a fair-weather friend before? The same thing can happen with a girlfriend who's only present and willing to work for the relationship when things are going smoothly. Feeling intense, positive emotions for each other is important to facilitate togetherness, but there's so much more that goes into making your short-term situation a long-term reality. Here are some important compatibility factors that every short-term couple should consider before setting their sights on a long-term relationship. -Jason Epstein

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  • 10 Common Interests

    Maybe your idea of a pleasant evening is reading the New Yorker, sipping a mug of earl grey tea, eating organic grass-fed steak medium-well and listening to your favorite opera on vinyl. Maybe hers is watching reality TV, then listening to thrash metal on the way to a rave, dropping some acid and hanging out in a McDonald's parking lot until the morning so she can get her McGriddle on. It doesn't mean you can't find things to do together. I mean, you guys are crazy about each other, right? But what happens when the lust has cooled off and you're left with the reality that you don't actually have much in common? Unless you can truly support each others interests, then it's time to demote each other to occasional booty calls. It's the only right thing to do.

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  • 9 Your Friends Like Them

    If your friends are so different from your girlfriend that they don't get along with her or vice versa, it can be hard to keep tension from arising and catching you in the middle. Hopefully, at least one party will make an attempt. But, since you've known your friends for years and your girlfriend only a short while, it's possible your friend's personalities more closely resemble your own, so she's the one that doesn't mesh.

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  • 8 Your Family Likes Them

    Unlike friends, you don't choose your family. But it can still be an enormous burden to have a woman and your family at odds with each other, once again thrusting you in the middle. If you can't find a way to make it work, you'll need to reassess your future with her. That is, unless you hate your family and don't give a shit what they think. But that's a whole other thing.

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  • 7 They Have Their Own Social Life

    Not every woman is a social butterfly. If your girl is one of these woman, ask yourself: is she not getting along with people except for a select few that tolerate her? Do her friends only want small doses of her at a time or rarely follow through when making plans? It's better for both of you to have your own healthy social lives in addition to your joint one. If it's feeling one-sided, then it's not wrong to help make up the difference, but it's also not wrong to question the reason behind it.

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  • 6 How They Get Along with Others

    If your little chica is constantly complaining about the drama she has with her friends, family and co-workers and she's relating it to you from her own perception, it's always possible that she's the problem and will eventually become a problem for you. Try to listen as objectively as possible so you can help her with these issues, but also remember it may only be a matter of time until she brings the drama to you.

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  • 5 Different Sleep Habits

    A recent study reveals something that makes a hell of a lot of sense: couples that have different sleep cycles often don't get along as well as ones who do. And even if you go to bed at the same time, what if your significant other is a loud snorer, sleep-talker, or has nightmares every night and lovingly plants an elbow in your face during the scariest part?

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  • 4 Religion

    "I'm sure we will figure it out," is the first thing you'll think of. But to what extent? Even if neither of you are religious, you were still brought up a certain way and may be culturally - or identity - bound to your own beliefs, religious celebrations or customs and might want to bring your kids up the same way. In short: Jew don't want to make Jesus cross with Jew.

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  • 3 Different Tastes in Food

    A recent Match.com study found that a much higher percentage of vegetarians are open to dating meat-eaters, versus meat-eaters that are okay with dating vegetarians. Besides the fact that this makes perfect sense since meat is awesome, it's a great example of complications that arise from dietary restrictions. What if you're that dude from the Sargento family who sounds like Kermit the Frog and your lady is lactose intolerant? Or what if your summer pig roast makes your Orthodox Jewish-vegan-hippie girlfriend sick to her stomach and break up with you over it (for a short while) every single year?

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  • 2 The Difference Between Communicating and Trying to Communicate

    Everyone says they value communication. Seriously, look at any number of dating profiles and you'll see it pop up all the time. So, what's the difference between trying and actually doing it? The thing here is that it's easy to communicate when things are going smoothly. But it's the most crucial when things aren't. And this is precisely the time when clear communication goes out the window for most couples in favor of becoming emotional reactionaries who believe they've communicated when all they did was assume. It's not that hard to talk things out people. I mean c'mon, it's the 90s. Okay, it's not, but I've wanted to say that since the 90s.

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  • 1 Baggage

    There's nothing inherently wrong with a woman who has baggage. It's how it affects her perceptions of the world and your relationship that matter. If you can be a good friend and boyfriend to her to help in any way you can it will require an open mind, patience and a willingness on her part. On the other hand, her issues might skew her views of your intentions, cause her to be selective about communication or just make her certifiably crazy (even if she seems sane since she's become so good at hiding it). Watch out!

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