8 ways to turn a female friend into more
Jason Epstein
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Having a hot female friend is always a challenge. Because no matter what you do, the word “platonic” sounds a lot more like a reference to earthquakes than your attitude toward that smokin’ bod. But how can you crack the barrier and add a heavy dose of attraction to the bland, unfulfilled vat of friendship the two of you share?
8 Don’t Call
Even if you get frequent calls and texts from her, do yourself a favor and allow a little breathing space. Let her know without actually telling her, that you’re a busy guy and although you value her, you’ll get to her when you get to her.
7 Let Her Make the Effort and Come to You
Don’t always give her logistical options that provide the utmost convenience to her when planning get-togethers. This communicates that you’ll bend over backwards to be around her. You should allow her to make enough of an effort so that she doesn’t feel like she owns you, because that will put you in the friend zone faster than a bad date.
6 Give Her the Option of Joining You
Better yet, go ahead and tell her what YOU are doing and let her know that she can come along if she’d like. “I’m going for a coffee at the bookstore, come meet me if you feel like it.” This will help her to see you as a guy who isn’t asking for permission to be around her and has his own things going on and in turn, it will help her to feel more comfortable.
5 Talk About Your Dating Life Freely
Go ahead; tell her about the girls you’ve been dating. Do it in a way that paints you as the decision maker, and don’t whine about missteps and misunderstandings. Tell a funny, bad date story. This will enable her to see you as someone that has women in his life and is accepted by other women.
4 Talk About Her Dating Life Freely
Connect with your friend. See what her dating experience has been like. Feel free to make fun of some of her past boyfriends for the dumb stuff they did that she’s still totally pissed about.
3 Don’t Comment on Her Looks
Don’t tell your friend how hot she is. Don’t stare at her. She probably knows already because guys communicate a hell of a lot more than they mean to more often than they mean to. Instead, tell her something she doesn’t know.
2 Poke a Little Fun at Her
What your friend probably doesn’t hear from guys is their honest opinions. Go ahead and be honest that yes, her ass does look a little fat in those jeans. But be funny about it and it won’t come off as if you’re just being a jerk.
1 Be a Good Friend That Has a Little Something More to Offer
Girls look for a lot of things in a man: trust, security, humor, adventure and their ability to fix their computer when they download half a billion viruses. Don’t sacrifice your beliefs or change who you are for her, just be mindful of what parts of your personality you show at what times and whether they will help you become the man she’s been looking for.
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